My Birthday & 25 Life Lessons

Today I’m 25! So here are 25 things I’ve learned throughout the years of my existence in this life:

1. Life is as beautiful as you make it.

If you think life sucks, life will suck. Those who are always looking at the ground miss the beauty of the world above them. And even if you’re looking up, you can’t expect sunshine if all you’re looking for is rain…

2. We all suck at life.

We all make mistakes. We are all imperfect. And that’s ok. Just get back up and dust yourself off. If anyone sees you fall, just know at one point they were or will be in your same shoes. Because we all trip and fall. It’s those who get back up and keep going that succeed.

3. Success is more than money.

Money is paper. When the dollar fails, people will be after food and resources and those who can DO things. And besides, who wants money without family, friends and fun. There are things in life you can’t buy… Loyalty, love, trust, kindness, time… Those things you have to EARN. And when you do earn it… You gain way more than whatever money could buy. You also gain self love, self respect, and the knowledge of who you are and what you are worth.. (And you’re worth more than all the money on earth!)

4. Jalape├▒os are hot.

And they burn like the fires of Mordor. I’m not kidding. Don’t eat one unless you are absolutely sure you can handle it. (Yes, I still feel dumb from yesterday.)

5. If kids give you candy… They are giving you a piece of their soul.

If a child offers you candy, TAKE IT. They either really love you or they are really nice. And either way, it is difficult for most children to give up THEIR candy and give it to you. So you take that sucker and enjoy the crap out of it because that kid just have you their heart in the form of sugar. At least it’s sweet.

6. Time is nonexistent.

You only have NOW. There is no such thing is tomorrow or yesterday. Only today. When you book an appointment or make time for something, what you are really saying is: I have to do all these things and take time for all this other stuff before I can get to that right there. So can you wait until I’m done with this person, this other appointment, this time frame, and THEN I will get to that. So don’t tell me your loved ones you “don’t have time”. No one has time!!! You MAKE TIME. Point blank.

7. Giving is food for the soul.

Whether it’s time, money, service, or a cookie, it doesn’t matter. Giving is seriously FOOD for your soul. It thrives on giving and sharing and loving and caring.. We were made for these things. And when you do give, it’s like your whole chemistry changes and you are happier, healthier, and you see the good in life. So give! And give freely without expecting anything in return.. Even though you get the greatest return of all.

8. Choose happiness.

Did you know you can CHOOSE to be happy??? You seriously can! It doesn’t matter what’s happening in the world, or around you, or whatever. If you WANT to be happy… You will find something to be happy about. So CHOOSE HAPPINESS!

9. You get what you pay for.

If you pay $1 for a burger, you get a $1 burger. Now it doesn’t necessarily always mean that if you pay more you “get” more. No. Something’s are more about personal preference than anything else.

For example, I will pay $1.50 for a toothpaste and be fine with that. While josh, my husband, gets some healthy, organic toothpaste for maybe twice the price. For me, it’s just toothpaste. BUT, if I want some mascara, I am NOT about to buy a $1 mascara. I am not about that life. I am getting the one that makes my lashes look the best.

Another example is a goal you want. If josh wants to get down to less than 10% body fat, he will eat rabbit food and work out everyday to “pay the price” for under 10% body fat. And if you saw my pictures you’d understand that I am not willing to “pay that price”. So paying the price isn’t necessarily $$$$.

10. Reading is good for you.

I love reading. And I know if you read daily, you will expand your mindset. New ideas, new ways of thinking, things you never thought about before… You just need to READ. And let your mind interpret and design. When I had read Harry Potter, I wasn’t skeptical to watch the movies because each person sees things differently. I saw the Chamber of Secrets differently but after watching the movie, that image of their Chamber of Secret is now stuck in my head. Which I’m ok with now. So just READ! And let your imagination work and expand your mind.

11. Margarine does NOT taste like butter.

And it doesn’t cook the same as well. If the ingredient says butter, YOU PUT BUTTER. This is true for lots of ingredients, and sometimes you can replace things just know it’ll be different… Most people can’t tell, but I can. And that’s because I LOOOOOVE butter.

12. People who you spend time with the most, are a reflection of you.

You tend to gravitate towards people who are like you. And you become friends with them because you have similarities. And when they say you’re a combination of the 5 people you hang out with, they literally mean it. Count your 5 closest friends and you’ll see that you are a combination of all of them.

This is important because they are either empowering you or disempowering you. And just in case you didn’t know, you get to choose your friends. So if ones doing you more harm, it may be best to find a new close friend. And if ones doing you good, it’d be wise to stick around that friend instead.

13. Is the best number.

I love that my birthday is on the 13th. It lands on a Friday once in a while and people panic. It’s funny. I love it. So it’s the best number.

14. Love is the key to all things.

You can’t beat war with war. But you can eliminate it with love. For who can be your enemy if you love all? I know I’m hoping for the impossible in this world, but people think you have to hate people because they’re mean or rude or horrid. No. You don’t. You can love them yet you can distance yourself at the same time. And that may be the most loving thing you can do for them. People aren’t searching for money or happiness or fitting in and acceptance. What they want is love… They just don’t know where to find it. And they can’t find it if you’re not willing to give it. So love. Love all things. Not like romance love, just have love. And be willing to express it.

15. Find joy in simplicity.

I like when my kids draw for me. It isn’t much, but it’s the fact that they thought of me and created something to give me. I also enjoy the color yellow. It reminds me of my Maria. As a child it had always been my favorite color. And you want to know why??? Because it made me happy. Simple things that create happiness means you can be happy when all you have are the simple things in life. So when I see a yellow daffodil, my day is 10 times better and I am happy ­čÖé

16. Forgiving is a state of being.

You don’t forgive someone, you ARE forgiving. Because it isn’t something to GIVE to them.. It’s something you CHOOSE for yourself. You are saying: you hurt me, you wronged me, you put me in a hard position… But I will be ok regardless. It’s really a gift to yourself. Because you have taken control of YOUR life… Regardless of someone else’s actions.

17. Find purpose.

If you don’t, you literally feel like Katy Perrys lyrics. A plastic bag floating in the wind. A plastic bag is meant for carrying things, being filled and used. If it’s floating around it’s not fulfilling it’s purpose and it’s being a nuisance to the rest of the world. Not that you are a plastic bag or a nuisance…

18. There is good in everyone.

If they choose it. And some people won’t. But that’s what they decide. Just know it’s there.. And if you are lucky enough, you might be the one person who gets to see it.

19. My business. Your business. Gods business.

My business are things in my control. My thoughts, my actions, my words, my choices… I can do something about all of those.

Your or their business, is someone else’s business. I can’t make my kids decisions. That’s their business. I can’t stop josh from saying unpleasant things. That’s his business. That’s what THEY decide and do for themselves. You can’t change people, they change themselves.

Gods business is the rain, the weather, the trials and experiences we go through. Things no one really has control over.

Why is this important??? Because you can only work on YOUR business. When you’re worry about someone else’s business, there’s no one to work on yours. So figure our today, what’s My business, Your/Their business and Gods business AND ONLY WORRY ABOUT WHATS IN MY BUSINESS. Life will be so much better and you will be less stressful. I promise.

20. Don’t make promises you can’t keep.

That includes yourself. If you say “I’m gonna wake up at 6am!” Then you better get up at 6am. The more you stop doing what you say you’re gonna do, the less likely you’ll keep ANY promises because you can’t even trust yourself. It becomes easier to say, “nope, I’m sleeping in” and lying to yourself.

21. Homemade cookies are the best because they are made with love.

Cookies bought from the store or bakery are great. They really are. But when you actually MAKE a batch of cookies, you are saying “I got all the ingredients, put them together, and waited for these baby’s, I took time out for you!” This goes for anything home made. (Now don’t go thinkin you can’t buy stuff, there’s nothing wrong with that! Some people are willing to take more time out and that’s ok. That’s your business not mine.)

22. You literally ARE your thoughts.

In case you don’t know about him yet, look up Dr Masaru Emotos water experiment on YouTube. (The videos are usually all the same.) But basically if you are thinking awful thoughts, you’re getting awful water crystals in your body. And you are 70% water. If you’re thinking good thoughts, then you have beautiful water crystals. So be careful about what you think around others. Your thoughts affect them as well.

23. Be kind to others.

You don’t know when you’ll meet people again. So be kind. You may need their help later on in life.

24. You are never alone.

We come in families for a reason. However your family may look like. But you are NEVER alone. And if you ever feel that way, shoot me a message and let me prove you wrong. I mean, help you out.

25. There is a God.

There is a God. And He loves you. And He has a Son, my Savior, Jesus Christ. You don’t have to believe in them. They will always believe in you. No matter what you do. There is always a way. He is the way. Even if you don’t see it now.

Thank you for letting me share a few things I’ve learned throughout my 25 years of life.

It hasn’t been easy… I’m always told I seem like I’m in my 30s.. Idk if it’s my kids, but I’ve been through a lot of things that have opened my eyes and my heart to a beautiful world of possibilities. Life IS beautiful. But only if you wish to see and believe it. I do. And I love every moment.

Enjoy life.

Embrace it.

And enrich the lives of others while you love it.

You ARE wanted.

You ARE loved.


Remember that.

All my love,

Remembering Our Culture

It’s that time of year again.


We are starting a new school year, and a new year of ROC, Remembering Our Culture.

ROC started 15 years ago in Provo, UT, as a BYU program. After BYU decided they did not want to continue the program, the students asked the director, Michael Campbell, to keep it going. And he did.

ROC has begun their 16th year with Evan Bogden, a BYU student, as their president.

ROC represents 5 different cultures: Asain, African, Latin, Native American and Polynesian.

I, Heilala Garcia, am their Polynesian section leader. I was the section leader last year, as well, but will be dancing this year. Being due 4 days after our annual show, I was unable to perform. Though I was able to join ROC on their annual tour. We went to North New York and ended our trip at Washington DC.


ROC shares the message that secondary education is very possible, especially to those students of these cultures.

Performing at schools, city halls, churches, the group shares numbers from each culture, and end with a song, story, and message that though different we are all the same. That a college education is very possible and that if we, as students of color, are able to achieve a secondary education, then they can as well.

Students who are in the group are required to maintain a 2.0 GPA and follow certain standards such as abstinence from drugs and alcohol.

Students come from the two main universities in Provo, BYU and UVU, while others are attending LDSBC and SLCC. Students also tutor at a local high school and perform firesides where they sing and share messages of faith and hope.

ROC is like an extended family for me.

I love the kids I dance with. (I say “kids” like I’m so much older lol. I’m married with kids so I FEEL much older than they are.) I have come to love each culture and their differences. Each beautiful and unique yet we all share the same standard of love and unity (and a love of food!!) The students are all amazing and talented in their own way. It’s so wonderful to see them all shine individually and to learn about them.

Michael and his wife Lluvia are an amazing couple. They love the kids they work with. They treat them as family and are very interested in their education and well being. They are both talented and share their love of music and performance in the group and strive to teach students how to perform well. Michael having been in show business and Lluvia a talented pianist and song writer, their talents are beautifully meshed together in ROC. It’s like they were MEANT to do this! (Which we all know.)

I am excited for this up coming year. We have 2 tours in the works and I will definitely be posting about them. But you can always check out their website: ROC THE PLANET.


If you know any students who are in the Utah county area who’d like to join, feel free to email

As a non-profit organization, you’re welcome to donate to the cause and help us and our students travel and perform.


I do ROC because is love the message. I love the groups unity, even though we have students from different cultures.

As a biracial family, I know how hard it is to mesh two cultures together.

ROC has 5 main cultures, with their own separate cultures, 30-40 students who have to cooperate and dance together, lead each other and on tour, live with each other or sit in a van for 2 days STRAIGHT together.

It is NOT an easy feat.

But it is done, year after year, and the message, standards, quality of performance stays the same.

If you are a student in the Utah County area, join us at practice!

If you know a student in the Utah county area, send them our way!

If you are out of state, you can check our schedule or donate to help us.

I can answer any questions or you can email us at the above address.

All in all, I love ROC. It’s a great organization that I can share my own talents and culture with as well. So look out for more posts of where we’re going!

All my love,